Interdependence

TODAY'sQUOTES "Be yourself, don't take anyone's sh*t, and never let them take you alive."   - Gerard Way, is an American musician and comic book writer who has served as lead vocalist and co-founder of the band My Chemical Romance.   "I want to stay as close to the edge as I can without going over. Out on the edge you see all kinds of things you can't see from the center."   - Kurt Vonnegut, was a great American novelist.   "This is really who I am, and it took a long time to be okay with that... Maybe in high school you, Ellen, you feel discriminated against. Like you don't fit in and you want to be like everyone else, but not really, and in the inside you want to be like Boy George - well, I did anyway. So I want my fans to know that it's okay. Sometimes in life you don't always feel like a winner, but that doesn't mean you're not a winner, you want to be like yourself. I want my fans to know it's okay."   - Lady Gaga, is an American singer, songwriter, fashion designer, pianist and performance artist.   "There is something inside you that has NEVER been expressed before. There is a unique style, a huge love, a wonderful creativity and something eternal within you! Don't ruin this precious gift by thinking you should be a carbon copy of someone else. Be you and you will have all the protection and happiness you can imagine!"   - Jackson Kiddard, author & polymath.

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MASTIN'SDAILYDOWNLOAD My name is Mastin Kipp & I am the Founder of The Daily Love. Photo by Brent Mullins.

A definition of Interdependence is, "a reciprocal relation between interdependent entities." The key word here is: "reciprocal". Interdependence can be thought of as a relationship where each party gives and receives from his or her own internal overflow. Which is TOTALLY different than "codependence" which can be thought of as being "addicted to someone". Another way to look at it, spiritually, is this: A codependent person makes someone else his or her Higher Power. An interdependent person knows that The Uni-verse is their Higher Power and keeps their focus on that, while choosing to be in a relationship with someone else who is also looking to The Uni-verse to fulfill them. When I first got into a relationship with my girlfriend, the first thing I said was - we have to keep our eyes on The Uni-verse to fulfill us. You and I, we are imperfect and flawed human beings who are going to mess up. We can't look to each other to fulfill us; I want to be in a relationship where we keep our eyes on The Uni-verse, which allows us to love ourselves and each other as imperfect beings. You see, when we make someone else our Higher Power, we are REALLY setting ourselves up for pain. This is a top cause of pain in relationships and of break ups. We are looking to someone else for something they can never give us - which is perfect and unwavering Love. There is only one place unwavering Love comes from and that is The Uni-verse. The Love of The Uni-verse never changes; other people change all the time. When we keep our eyes on The Uni-verse and surrender to It's will for us, we take everyone else off the hook for our happiness. We no longer seek to take Love from them, but to show up from a place of overflow and give Love to them. This kind of relationship creates two really great givers and FORgivers.  This is the cornerstone of having an awesome and long-term relationship. Are you making a person your Higher Power? Are you ready to take your eyes off of them and put them towards The Uni-verse and accept It's perfect Love for you? Can you see yourself and those you are in relationship with as imperfect human beings who are fallible and Love them anyways, not because they are fulfilling your every need, but because it is Love that is who you really are? Do you think you might be addicted to someone? Let me know: My email is WhatImGoingThru@TheDailyLove.com Love, Mastin # # # Want to live your life to the fullest? If you're ready for change, serious about investing in yourself and ready to work with a mentor send us an email. The TDL Mentoring program is intense and an investment. Serious inquires only.